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Is it too early to talk about Christmas?
With the school summer holidays behind us and the new term underway—much to the relief of many parents—it may seem premature to mention Christmas. But when it comes to planning for Christmas, especially for separated families, it’s never too early.
As a family law solicitor with over two decades of experience advising separated parents on child arrangements, I’ve seen firsthand how emotionally charged the festive period can be. Even for families who do not celebrate Christmas religiously, the division of time over the school holidays often brings tension and stress.
To help ease the pressure and ensure the season remains one of joy and connection, I’ve put together my “12 Tips of Christmas Child Arrangements”:
- Communication
Start early. Clear, open, and honest communication is the foundation of agreeing successful child arrangements.
- Calmness
Frustrations may arise, but staying calm—whether speaking or writing—helps keep discussions constructive and productive.
- Child-Focused
Put your child’s needs first. Their wellbeing is paramount and should guide every decision, even if it means setting aside personal preferences or family expectations.
- Conflict Avoidance
Shield children from parental disputes. Don’t ask them to choose sides or express preferences, especially when they’re young.
- Consistency
Children thrive on routine and consistency. Planning not just for this year but future holidays provide comfort and stability for children.
- Cooperation
You may not get everything you want but aim for child arrangements that work for everyone—especially your child.
- Compromise
Flexibility goes a long way. If you’re willing to be flexible now, you’re more likely to receive the same in return later. However, avoid frequent changes that disrupt routine.
- Cafcass Resources
Visit the Cafcass website for helpful guidance on co-parenting and child arrangements.
- Compliance
Stick to agreed plans. Last-minute changes—like a spontaneous trip to the Christmas panto can wait until next year.
- Constructive Approach
If communication breaks down, consider mediation or other form of non-court dispute resolution options.
- Court – the last resort
If an agreement cannot be reached on child arrangements, you may need to apply to the Court for resolution. However, this should be your last resort as opposed to your first.
- Consult a Specialist
Get legal advice early from a family law specialist. Understanding your rights and options can make all the difference.
If you have questions about child arrangements or other family law matters, I am a specialist family solicitor and offer an initial free 15-minute consultation. Feel free to reach out—I’m here to help.